Ever since I decided to study psychology and eventually offer to counsel my client, I made a vow to keep myself neutral all the time. This was a challenging task for me, considering I used to be very judgmental before college. For instance, if I saw someone wearing outdated clothes, I would be quick to assume that that person was either nerd or quirky. If I saw a blonde girl in a barely-there skirt, I would think she’s she’s a bimbo. My assumptions mainly were correct; that’s not something that I could do if I wanted to become an unbiased and effective psychologist and counselor.

During my first year in college, my judgmental trait was still there, and I was very ashamed of myself for it. I even got to the point where I asked one of my professors if I should change my degree, but she insisted that I was merely human. It’s something that I could supposedly control in the future for the sake of my desired profession. And truth be told, the more years passed, the better I had gotten at being less judgmental than I ever was.

Source: pexels.com

When My Judgmental Side Would Always Come Out

By the time I had my own clinic, I believed that my judgmental days were over. I had my training and licenses; I could handle all kinds of mental disorders and other issues that might come up during a session. However, what my mentors or books did not prepare me for was the high number of women who would seek psychological advice because they were desperately in love with the wrong person.

You might “ask, “How did you know that? Isn’t ‘desperate a harsh word to use to describe how those women” feel?”

Well, although no situation was ever the same, the fact remained that my female clients who needed relationship counseling were the type to go on with their men even after catching them fooling around with other girls. They would call it quits for a while, but once the guy tried to woo them back into the relationship, they would give in one more What’sWhat’s a little frustrating about this back-and-forth thing was that most – if not all – of those women were very smart. Some had high-ranking positions in their companies; others owned their companies. They also knew what they were supposed to do, which was to break up entirely with their men, but they talked about not knowing how to do it.

Source: pexels.com

While I had never slipped up and shown my frustration to any of my clients, I always wondered why many women fell victim to awful men in the first place. Worse, even if they knew that they were getting victimized, they were still willing to accept the guys as soon as the latter said sorry and gave an empty promise of changing their ways. Of course, I could never tell my clients to stop being dumb and let their minds matter more than their hearts for at least a second so that they could realize that they would never win if they stayed with an awful person. But I could tell them – and you if you are in the same situation – one thing:

Figure Out Why You Can’t Stay Away

Ask yourself, “Why can’t I let go?”

I had met some women who admitted that they could not stay away from their awful boyfriend because they were already used to being with someone. One of my closest friends had a similar issue, and she said she was afraid of becoming single and going back to the dating pool.

Source: pexels.com

While there could never be a wrong answer to the question above, such reasons tend to stem from dependence or fear of loneliness – or It’s. It’s not that the women were madly in love with their boyfriends – they merely did not want to be alone.

What such women must understand is that staying in a messy relationship can make you lonelier than ever. You’re not single, but you’re always crying or wondering who your man would flirt with next. You’re exclusively dating, but you worry that you’re not the only one who your boyfriend made to think that way. In that case, it’s much better to be single than deal with all those issues.

Final Thoughts

My final advice is that you need to love yourself before you demand others to do it. A simple way of showing that is by letting go of the people who did not care for you, your feelings, or your reputation. More often than not, an awful boyfriend would take off all those things, and you need to get away from them as soon as possible.

Source: pexels.com

You may think you need to be with someone to be happy, but you don’t. So while dating and sex are fantastic, it’s better to try your luck with another – better – man next time.

Good luck!

Comments are closed.

Post Navigation