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Family therapy offers strategies and activities derived from cognitive therapy, interpersonal therapy, behavior therapy, and other forms of therapy. Unlike other forms of treatment, the strategies utilized depend on the particular issues of the patient or patients.

Emotional or behavioral issues in children are typical reasons to consult a family counselor or therapist. Children’s issues don’t exist and do not affect anything or anyone. They exist, and they require attention and support from the family. It should be remembered that with family therapy, ‘family’ doesn’t always mean blood relations. Family can be anyone who supports, cares, and loves another even if they are not family members or living in the same home.

Here are the most commonly used forms of family therapy:

  • Structural. This type of therapy involves making adjustments and building strength within the family and ensuring that parents are managing the children and adults appropriately, including setting proper boundaries. Here, the family welcomes the therapist in their home to observe and know more about its members to improve their capacity to strengthen each other.

 

  • Systemic. This model involves the emphasis of unconscious communications and the purpose and meanings of each family member’s behavior. The therapist in this type of treatment is impartial and detached, enabling all family members to delve deeper into the problems and challenges that they are confronted with.

 

  • Bowenian. It is a type of family therapy most suitable for circumstances where family members are hesitant to include the rest of the members during treatment. The Bowenian therapy was developed from two main principles – triangulation, or the tendency to release one’s stress and anxiety by venting to another individual, and differentiation, or the process of learning to be less mentally and emotionally responsive to family relationships.

 

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  • Strategic. A more brief type of therapy, strategic family therapy, is also more direct than the other types. The therapist delegates assignments to each family member for the purpose of changing the way the family interacts. He then evaluates the way the family members communicate and discusses their decisions. He also takes the position of authority in this form of therapy, which enables other members that do not typically hold the authority to communicate more efficiently.

 

For the therapist to effectively treat various family issues, he must:

  • Make proper observations of how individuals interact.
  • Assess and find solutions for relationship issues.
  • Make a diagnosis and treatment for mental illnesses within the family.
  • Help people in their journey towards transition, such as in death or divorce.
  • Efficiently help substitute an abnormal behavior into a healthy one.

For the family therapist to possess these skills and fulfill his role, he must get a bachelor’s degree in psychology, counseling, social work, or sociology and then a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy.

Then the therapist will also be required to finish two years of work under supervision after he graduates. This would be a total of 2,000 to 4,000 hours of practice in the clinical setting. When these are met, the family therapist will most likely also need to submit and pass an exam specific to his state and complete yearly continuing education subjects.

Goals of Family Therapy

In essence, the primary objective of family therapy is to work with the family to help it heal from mental, psychological, or emotional difficulties that are destroying the entire family. To do this, the family therapist must help families improve the way they treat and talk to each other, how they solve their problems, and understand and deal with various situations that they may be confronted with every day.

The goals depend on the problems presented by the clients. For instance, they may differ depending on the following situations:

  • A family member is diagnosed with schizophrenia or psychosis. The goal here is to guide other members of the family so that they will learn to understand the nature of the disorder and be able to adapt to the psychological changes that the schizophrenic family member is going through.
  • Families that contradict social norms, such as gay and lesbian relationships, unmarried couples living together, etc.) The objective here is not often to give attention to particular internal issues. Still, the members might require help in dealing with external factors, such as the attitude of society.

 

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  • Issues originating from cross-generational restrictions, like when parents live with grandparents, or children raised by their grandparents. The objective is to enhance communication and help each member create healthy boundaries.
  • Families who come from diverse cultural, religious, or racial backgrounds. The goal here is to aid families in understanding each other better and learn to build healthy family relationships.
  • The client’s problems are seemingly connected to problems with other members of the family. In circumstances where the problems are profoundly connected to problems with other members, the objective is to tackle each contributing concern and then resolve or reduce the effects of these problems to the entire family.
  • Blended families or stepfamilies. These types of families can be affected negatively by issues that are specific to their situation. For the blended family, the objective of family therapy is to improve comprehension and build good interactions between one another.

 

 

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There was rarely a time in my life when I had not been punctual, except for when I forgot to change my alarm’s battery, causing it not to go off at all. In truth, I hated making someone wait for me, regardless of any situation. My reason was that no one forced me to agree to a meeting at a particular time, so I should have no excuse for not being at the rendezvous place on time. This way of thinking seemed to always work in my favor; that’s why I continued to do it.

However, I could not say the same thing for my younger sister. Ever since we were kids, she was the last to prepare for school every morning. Mom and Dad had to take turns waking her up and even needed to resort to shouting or banging doors to make that happen.

When I was in 9th grade, my sister entered the 7th grade. Our first classes took place at the same time – 8:30 A.M. – so we were supposed to be out of the house 30 minutes before that. Otherwise, we would miss the first school bus and need to wait for 15 more minutes for the second one to arrive.

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Throughout that year, I could only count the number of times when my sister managed to ride the first bus with me using one hand. The girl could not get ready for school on time, no matter how many letters our parents got from her teachers, complaining about her tardiness. As it turned out, she often missed the first 10 minutes of the class, and the teachers were unhappy.

We all thought that this problem would end in 8th grade because my sister’s first period was at 9 A.M., but we were wrong. If anything, it got worse since she would often “take a nap” after breakfast once Mom had gone to work, and she was all by herself. This tardy routine continued even in college, much to our parents’ chagrin.

As for me, I made it my life’s work to understand my sister’s seemingly never-ending tardiness. I picked my best friend’s brain, who happened to be a budding psychologist years ago, to know more about it. Here’s what I learned.

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Constant Lateness Could Be A Sign Of Mental Health Disorder

The main thing I understood was that tardiness could be a symptom of a mental health disorder. After all, it was one thing to be late because your car battery died, you got in an accident, or a loved one needed your help urgently. If someone was clearly making up excuses for their lateness and failing to make it seem believable, that’s not okay.

One of the significant mental health disorders that might cause tardiness was anxiety. Anxious people tend to stay in their heads for a long time without moving or taking any action, you see. They could spend hours thinking and not realize how much time they had lost. It would be incredible if the person were aware of what’s happening and why, but many people hadn’t realized it at all.

Constant lateness could also be a sign of impulse control disorder. If you think about it, a person could easily avoid getting up late by setting up multiple alarms around them. Considering you had been making a similar effort, but to no avail, it might be ideal to seek a mental health professional’s advice on the matter.

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Furthermore, the lack of self-confidence might be the reason behind someone’s tardiness. For instance, if you snagged a job at a fast-paced company, and you still could not believe that you deserved the spot, you might often end up not living up to others’ expectations. You might see your reflection before work and start talking down about your abilities, to the extent that you already missed the time.

How To Stop Being Late

Consulting a psychologist regarding your tardiness might be the best course of action.

When I suggested that to my sister, I must admit that it didn’t gain positive reactions from her or our parents. They all had this belief that only mentally challenged people would do that. But after retelling the possible mental health causes of constant lateness, my sister finally agreed to professionally meet my best friend.

After a few appointments, it turned out that my sister had social anxiety. Although it seemed like she didn’t care about being on time, we became aware that her anxiety was making her tardy all these years. The psychologist prescribed one-on-one counseling to my sister, followed by immersion in crowded places whenever she felt ready.

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Months later, my sister’s tardiness seemed to lessen little by little.

Bottom Line

Being always late does not mean that someone is a rebel who doesn’t care about rules. Most of the time, they do care. The only problem is that they have no idea how to change this habit.

Well, now that you’ve reached the bottom of this article, you cannot use the same excuse anymore. Let your brain soak in the information above and ask for mental help if you need it. Good luck!

 

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Self-help healing methods gained popularity in the first place since many people like to be able to say that they got better on their own. According to Alyssa Adams, PsyD, “Taking care of yourself isn’t up for question. Without spending proper time to recharge, you’re setting yourself up for burnout.” Or worse, a mental health issue. When you have a sore throat, for instance, it’s easy to blend honey, lemon, and hot water. If stress begins to take a toll on your mental state, you can exercise, log out of social media, or go to a spa.

Alas, do-it-yourself tricks cannot solve every problem you possibly have, especially when it comes to mental health issues. Because of that, you should know the times when you need to see a therapist the most.

 

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  1. You Avoid People

One sign that a counselor may help you is when it has become a habit to prevent being around every kind of person out there. That does include not only strangers but also friends and relatives. Thus, you no longer go to parties, you get food deliveries instead of eating in restaurants, and you sometimes avoid going to work or school.

It’s vital to understand that that’s not the behavior of someone with a healthy mind. If you can’t stop doing those things by yourself, then you may have to call a therapist ASAP.

  1. You Can’t Help But Feel Angry Or Dejected Often

Feeling uncontrollable rage and sadness is common for individuals with anger-management issues or depression. It seems too taxing for you to find a reason to smile. Even when others try to liven up your spirits, you end up getting annoyed, to the extent that you either walk out of the room or yell at everyone.

Is that an indication of normalcy? No. It makes your issues as clear as day. Hence, you need guidance from a counselor at this point.

  1. You Forgo The Activities You Used To Love

When an unfortunate situation befalls an active person, he or she does not sit on the problem for too long. Maybe they’ll cry about it for a few days; perhaps they’ll go against the tides to make matters right. What these people will never do, however, is let go of the job or hobbies that they’ve always loved.

In case you catch yourself doing the opposite of that now, and months already passed since that disastrous event in your life, you need to move on without any more delay. There are far too many adventures out there, and a single occurrence shouldn’t discourage you from taking them on ever. Considering you can’t rise from the slump, though, you may then look for a good therapist.

  1. You Want To Heal

“The urge to know what your life is all about and to know your life’s direction leaves you feeling uncertain about the future and discontent with the present,” says Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. Counseling, consequently, is not merely for folks who cannot find their footing in this world. It can also encompass the ones who accept that there’s something wrong with them. After all, healing blossoms from having that frame of mind.

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Finally, don’t think that therapists are only helpful to people with severe mental conditions. They can assist anyone who wants to improve their way of thinking and get rid of whatever psychological burden that stops them from finding happiness. The counselors at BetterHelp, for example, are trained and experienced with providing information about various mental health issues. However, they are also available 24/7 if you simply need a listening ear or a compassionate friend who can hear you out when you are down and out. Client testimonials would tell you that many lives have turned around for good after weeks of online therapy with them. Partner with BetterHelp today.

If there’s an issue you’ve been bottling up for years, for that reason, contact a therapist soon. “The benefits of therapy extend far beyond periods of crisis,” says Ryan Howes, Ph.D., a psychologist and writer. “Many people want more than to be ‘not depressed.’ They wonder what they can do to be the happiest, most productive, most loving version of themselves.” He added.

 

 

Productivity is an essential result of work. When we get things done, our superiors laud us for being productive. When we’re unproductive, though, we would most likely get the boot out of our jobs. “Usually procrastination happens because the task seems too difficult,” said A. Chris Heath, MD, a psychiatrist.

Or it could be stress or depression. That is why it’s hard for depressed people to keep up with work demands because WE don’t have the drive to get things done. 

 

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With this Coronavirus issue that you are dealing with, perhaps you are already bored and unmotivated. But if you think about it, you genuinely have a lot of free time. Thus, you can choose to waste all of it and lay around the couch all day, or you can choose to invest it and do something productive. Honestly, the choice is yours. But if you want to consider the latter, the best way to use your time productively is by learning and developing new skill sets. That way, when things get back to normal, which eventually will, you will become ready and more prepared.

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Choose A Skillset That Can Create An Immediate Impact – It is essential to note that the best skillset you need to focus on is the ones that can impact your career, business, and life. Do not try and engage in a skillset that might take you years to accomplish results. Not only it may become obsolete in the years to come, but you might get exhausted overtime as well. Therefore, consider something that you can learn quickly. It should be a skill set that you can use and implement right now. It should be entirely practical. Some examples would be cooking, baking, digital marketing, coding, graphic arts, copywriting, and web business development. These skillsets have the potential to grow in the future due to the change of economic needs.

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Choose A Skillset That You Can Learn From The Comfort Of Your Home – With all the limitations, restrictions, and health dangers due to the Coronavirus pandemic, staying at home is essential. Therefore, use the opportunity to learn things through the internet. You do not need to go to a physical location. You only have to rely on your computer. But take note; consider learning new skillsets one at a time. Do not go crazy over learning too many is a short period. Do not juggle three or more because it can slow down the process of completion. That is because the possibility of distraction is high due to the other tasks that might get in the way. So focus on one thing at a time.

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Choose A Skillset that You Are Passionate About – One thing that you need to consider when trying to learn a new skillset is your willingness to accomplish it. If you engage in learning something that is not related to your fortes or thinks less about it, you might not be able to finish what you have started. So to avoid this, choose a skillset that you are passionate about and not that you only try for the sake of wanting to learn something. So if you like drawing, proceed to learn graphic arts. If you know a little bit about computer programming, then continue to learning software development. Just do not go overboard with what is only available. Choose the skillset you know you will spend a lot of hours learning, giving extra effort, and aiming for the best results.

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Takeaway

Honestly, learning a new skill set, whatever it is, is still valuable. But for practicality, some skills will become more in demand than the others. That is why it is essential to engage in those skill sets that will guarantee you a better financial and work stability. That way, whatever uncertainties that may come in your life, you can still become confident because you know you have the potential to adapt socially and economically. And once this whole pandemic situation is over, your newly acquired skills will help you get through the struggle.

All of us are suffering enough in this health crisis, and we wish for it to be over. Though we don’t see any progress in its cure yet, we know that people are trying their best to slow down the outbreak. We know that we are responsible for both spreading and flattening the curve. Yes, there are still cases of Coronavirus infection out there. But with all our efforts, soon we will be in control again. And once this terrifying experience is over, we can all sit back and think about the lessons this pandemic contributes to our lives.

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Preparation Is Always Essential

One thing that all of us can recognize is that this pandemic caused the world collateral damage. That until now, it is difficult to handle everything that relates to the situation. And if we ask ourselves why this happened, the answer would be our inability to think ahead of possibilities. There are full of assumptions and fewer preparations. We are too confident that things will not turn out this way because we, humans, believe we are in control.

When we think about it, we are incapable of handling the situation in all aspects. We are not ready to face a world health crisis, and we are not prepared to provide everyone the help we all need. Sadly, all of us underestimated this virus. That is why we responded a little bit too late. And since we are full of supposition, we ignored some of the possible damages that now became part of our struggle.

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People Are Selfish In Nature

In this pandemic situation, we now witnessed how selfish people can be. And that even if other people are dying and struggling to find a living during this time, others can sit and watch them suffer. No, not all people are like that. Some are willing to help. But of course, there are limitations as well. We can’t blame them because, in this time of crisis, all of us aim for one thing – survival.

In times like this, we all think about the betterment of the world and its people. However, we cannot deny the fact that our top priority is ourselves. Honestly, there is nothing wrong with that. We value our lives, and we don’t want to experience such unfortunate situations because we believe we don’t deserve that. But don’t we?

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Life Is Too Short

Once this whole thing is over, we can all agree that life is too short for us to give a damn about unworthy things. Like for example, this pandemic targets everyone regardless of their status in life. So if you think about it, money cannot do anything. It is unable to save a lot of people from the depths of despair. Yes, money is essential in this current state. But still, the virus doesn’t care about that.

We all understand that this situation is very challenging, and none of us are aware of its uncertainties. So once this is over, we might as well value our lives and the lives of our loved ones. We need to remind them how much they mean to us. We have to exert any effort in spending time with them because we never know when ours and their lives would end.

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We hear the saying “there’s a rainbow always after the rain” all the time. Honestly, that is true. This pandemic situation reminds us that everything in this world is temporary. Therefore, we can have the same opinion that it is about time that we change our ways. Hopefully, right after this health crisis, we won’t make the same mistakes again.

 

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“When two individuals choose to form a marital union, their decision has enormous power—for better or for worse—over the quality of their lives. Their marriage can bring them infinite blessings or can usher in disappointment, strife, anger, and depression,” says Susan Heitler Ph.D.

How do you think a married couple treats each other after years of being together? “Profound romantic love is characterized by the wish to be with the partner all the time. This, however, can harm each one’s personal space,” says Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D.

When they remain in love, you will see the wife making breakfast or preparing the husband’s stuff, and vice versa. Once that fades but the friendship stays, they will still perform activities as a tandem and perhaps understand one another more. However, if the love is there yet work is starting to put a wedge in between the couple, the marriage might suffer big-time.

Below are the red flags showing how that will possibly take place.

 

  1. You Have Irregular Shifts

The continually changing operating hours only suits single individuals. In case you have to cover different shifts after every week or so, that’s just okay in the beginning or if you work around the same time as your better half. Once he or she complains that you are never home when they are and turns bitter anytime you need to go to the job site, though, then the sign that your marriage is in jeopardy becomes as clear as day.

 

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  1. If Your Spouse Cannot Listen To Your Talks About Work, You Become Detached

When you get hired by a new company, your better half will most likely be as excited as you are and want to know everything about your projects, how your colleagues treat you, et cetera. Considering the eagerness already dies down because your job is all you wish to speak of with your spouse, however, you may think that he or she isn’t happy for you. Thus, you talk less to them unless the subject concerns the bills and what-not.

The reality is that any sane husband or wife loves to see their significant other succeed in their chosen craft. It’s just that you might be overdoing it, and there’s no time for you to talk about various things, such as the spouse’s work, the kids, and many more. Think about that next time before getting angry whenever they feign disinterest regarding your job.

 

  1. You Bring Home Stress From Work

Another red flag is letting stress come with you from the office. When that happens, your patience level is undoubtedly not that high; that’s why you might pick a fight with your significant other over the tiniest mistakes.

Now, in case you have a super understanding husband or wife, they will know better than to egg you on at that moment. But remember as well that you married a mortal – not a saint – so you should control your mood swings and avoid bringing stress back to the house.

 

  1. You Forget Significant Occasions

The final nail to the marriage coffin is losing track of all the relevant events that you used to celebrate together. You can stay in the office for eight hours straight and even work overtime, but it’ll be great if you don’t forget to come home early for special occasions like anniversary, birthday, et cetera. Your lack of recollection of those dates might make the spouse feel as if the job already replaced family on your priority list, and that can’t be good.

 

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Loving your job isn’t a crime. The work gives you the ability to pay for your expenses instead of making your husband or wife shoulder them. Despite that, do not love it more than your spouse. That will ruin your marriage, for sure. “The decision to get married might entail a confrontation that seems adversarial and awfully unpleasant,” says Susi Ferrarello Ph.D. It will take a lot of work and effort if you want it to last.

 

Knowing that you are in a relationship with ‘the one’ allows a sense of serenity to wash over you. In case you used to speed through life in the past, you now wish to slow down the time so that you can stay with that person longer. Being stuck in a traffic jam or waiting in a long line to enter a restaurant does not bother you as much as before too, considering it gives you the opportunity to talk to or think about the love of your life freely. 

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Has anyone ever mentioned that you cannot have everything you wish for at once?  

Sacrifice, according to folklore, after all, is the key to success. You need to give up on one thing to achieve something. Thus, you may see that some people choose to be a stay-at-home parent and leave the corporate world or remain in the workforce without thinking of starting a family.  

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